Gay rights activist Bisi Alimi shared an intense stream of morning reflections on Instagram, addressing everything from global divorce trends to society’s enduring double standards about sexuality.
Alimi noted that 40–50% of heterosexual marriages end in divorce worldwide, while many others exist in what he described as “silent divorce” — couples who still share a home but no longer share a relationship.
He hinted that something personal may have inspired his posts, writing: “There is no smoke without fire, and there is one on the mountain.”
He argued that infidelity remains the leading cause of failed straight marriages, calling it simply another form of promiscuity. Alimi contrasted this with the way society often labels gay men as inherently “promiscuous,” noting that queer relationships are frequently treated as morally inferior.
He added that even the HIV/AIDS stigma was historically weaponized to reinforce those stereotypes.
According to Alimi, data shows that gay marriages tend to last longer within the first decade compared to heterosexual unions, challenging assumptions about which relationships are more stable.
His broader point: the “moral high ground” society gives straight marriages is built on unrealistic expectations and long-held stereotypes.
He also reflected on older generations, saying many parents stayed in unhappy marriages not out of love, but out of fear of “what will people say?” which was a cycle of shame passed down through time.
Alimi didn’t spare religious institutions either, alleging that some of the biggest “sexual predators” are men who hide behind scriptures and microphones.
He ended his posts on a lighter note, saying: “I don’t even know why I woke up like this today… let me go back to living my Brazilian dream.”
